Comments on: For Worse http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/ freedom is the silence of the law Sun, 06 Jul 2008 00:35:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Jenn G http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-225 Sat, 01 Jan 2005 04:42:56 +0000 http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-225 yeah, the east coast can make you do that, it's just a different culture. I actually don't mind it, cause when are you nice to someone it totally makes their day and catches them off guard. I've gotten a lot of crap in the midwest for not specifically going out of my way to help people or do something for someone, as it manners etc. were expected of me to everyone. I think when no one expects it and you are nice it is much more meaningful. yeah, the east coast can make you do that, it’s just a different culture. I actually don’t mind it, cause when are you nice to someone it totally makes their day and catches them off guard. I’ve gotten a lot of crap in the midwest for not specifically going out of my way to help people or do something for someone, as it manners etc. were expected of me to everyone. I think when no one expects it and you are nice it is much more meaningful.

]]> by: Jacob http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-231 Thu, 09 Dec 2004 20:18:06 +0000 http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-231 Wasn't trying to start a culture war -- tongue was planted firmly in cheek when I wrote that comment. Wasn’t trying to start a culture war — tongue was planted firmly in cheek when I wrote that comment.

]]> by: gabrielle http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-230 Thu, 09 Dec 2004 17:26:28 +0000 http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-230 yay virginia! yay virginia!

]]> by: brian http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-229 Thu, 09 Dec 2004 00:19:02 +0000 http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-229 I'm not saying it is due to the people of the east coast, or anything is wrong with them. And there is no 'but' clause with that. I like the east coast quite a bit and will probably stay here for a long time. I like the east coast, what it has to offer, and learning vicariously through people who grew up here. But, the midwest and the east coast (like anywhere) are places that unless you are from that area, you can't empathize. Indian Hill, Ohio is a hop away from where I grew up in Mariemont. Chevy Chase, MD is also next to Bethesda, MD. I've realized that the experiences of people that grew up in Indian Hill and Chevy Chase are pretty much the same, but most don't know that, not of their own fault, but just haven't experienced Indian Hill or Mariemont. My problem is with me, not with others. And these problems did not arise from being around east coast people. It is more from just trying to have people (east coast or not) <I>know</I> where I'm from to have more commonality. But in doing so, I act more pompous, arrogant, and 'I must be the center of attention-ish' to a greater degree, as if I do it to prove my worth. And I don't want that. I don't need to prove my worth. I want to be more humble again. I want to be more courteous. I want to be less pretentious. I don't want to come off as rude. That's all; I have no qualms with any from any coastal or non-coastal region. Oh and Jacob, I'm moving to Viriginia (a red state) in January or February. I’m not saying it is due to the people of the east coast, or anything is wrong with them. And there is no ‘but’ clause with that. I like the east coast quite a bit and will probably stay here for a long time. I like the east coast, what it has to offer, and learning vicariously through people who grew up here. But, the midwest and the east coast (like anywhere) are places that unless you are from that area, you can’t empathize.

Indian Hill, Ohio is a hop away from where I grew up in Mariemont. Chevy Chase, MD is also next to Bethesda, MD. I’ve realized that the experiences of people that grew up in Indian Hill and Chevy Chase are pretty much the same, but most don’t know that, not of their own fault, but just haven’t experienced Indian Hill or Mariemont.

My problem is with me, not with others. And these problems did not arise from being around east coast people. It is more from just trying to have people (east coast or not) know where I’m from to have more commonality. But in doing so, I act more pompous, arrogant, and ‘I must be the center of attention-ish’ to a greater degree, as if I do it to prove my worth.

And I don’t want that. I don’t need to prove my worth. I want to be more humble again. I want to be more courteous. I want to be less pretentious. I don’t want to come off as rude. That’s all; I have no qualms with any from any coastal or non-coastal region.

Oh and Jacob, I’m moving to Viriginia (a red state) in January or February.

]]> by: Eva http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-228 Wed, 08 Dec 2004 15:29:50 +0000 http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-228 I'm sorry you feel that way, but I have found that people transplanted to New England from the Midwest think people uncaring (at least in the cities). I find more acts of kindness and caring in Boston than I ever did in Terre Haute. Maybe it is sheer quantity, although I doubt it. So, in defense of New Englanders and the East Coast, yes, we are a little more chilly at first, we don't smile at strangers as we pass on the street, but we do care about our fellow man, and put that into action. Sorry to rant, but I am sick and tired of generalizations of the East Coast. Also, there is nothing wrong with being an OSU fan. I’m sorry you feel that way, but I have found that people transplanted to New England from the Midwest think people uncaring (at least in the cities). I find more acts of kindness and caring in Boston than I ever did in Terre Haute. Maybe it is sheer quantity, although I doubt it. So, in defense of New Englanders and the East Coast, yes, we are a little more chilly at first, we don’t smile at strangers as we pass on the street, but we do care about our fellow man, and put that into action.
Sorry to rant, but I am sick and tired of generalizations of the East Coast. Also, there is nothing wrong with being an OSU fan.

]]> by: Jacob http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-227 Wed, 08 Dec 2004 14:56:31 +0000 http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-227 By the way, your church looks pretty cool. Now back to our regularly scheduled commenting: Come back to the Midwest, man! What you just described is only a coastal phenomenon because the east coast is home to many of the country's secular leftists. Come back to the red states, where even if we're bigoted right-wing religious conservatives, we're nice about it. ;) By the way, your church looks pretty cool. Now back to our regularly scheduled commenting:
Come back to the Midwest, man! What you just described is only a coastal phenomenon because the east coast is home to many of the country’s secular leftists. Come back to the red states, where even if we’re bigoted right-wing religious conservatives, we’re nice about it. ;)

]]> by: ksmtih http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-226 Wed, 08 Dec 2004 12:43:52 +0000 http://www.jocund.net/brian/2004/12/07/for-worse/#comment-226 I think it has less to do with you moving to the east coast than it does with you being an OSU fan. Start rooting for the boilers and you'll have your new year's res licked in no time. I think it has less to do with you moving to the east coast than it does with you being an OSU fan. Start rooting for the boilers and you’ll have your new year’s res licked in no time.

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